Hi
Its hard to vote on this as I have only just registered and have not gained an understanding of the nature of the forums useage. I would like to think that my privacy will be respected and that if I should do something wrong, discrete guidance would be given. I hope that this forum will help me through some of the isolation, confusion and stigma of PTSD that I am experiencing, and would not like to upset/offend anyone... as PTSD can magnify my feelings of fear and vulnerability, I would not like to worry that my personal information/situation will be made public without my consent.
Lindz

I liked what Marlene said...I think if you dont want ur laundry out there then keep it in...we have talked alot about RULES how about PTSD...its really messing me up...how about u guys?

Welcome to the forum Diego, lovely to have you!

I agree Open for sure.....

Well I messed up.

I voted No. But I should have voted Yes.

I voted No in that I want moderation to be a bit less heavy-handed. I think the explanations provided for why someone is being moderated, are needlessly detailed and far too personal. The feeling I get from these posts is that this person is being publicly flogged and feathered. IMO this is particularly damaging to someone with depression, anxiety or PTSD. Many of us deal with enough judgment and abuse from our families and SO's, we don't need this kind of threat looming over us on a board that's supposed to be a safe place where we can heal.

I should have voted Yes, because I do believe that anyone who is moderated should have a fair shake with all members, as well as a chance to speak their piece about it. And perhaps if the moderation is too detailed and too personal, then members of the board can see that is the case for themselves and reach their own conclusions about it.

Yes, I do fully recognize that it's your board to do with as you please, Anthony. I understand what that means and how it works, as I have run several boards of my own in the past 11 years, and am running one right now. But that doesn't mean I necessarily agree with how all things are handled. I will follow the rules to the best of my ability, but my mere presence and continued contributions do not equate to my blanket stamp of approval. We are talking two separate things here. I am not pointing this out to be mean toward you Anthony, I just want to clarify the factual basis of where I stand on this issue.

As it is not "my" board, my scope of influence is very limited, so I try to participate in a way that I hope will offer the most benefit to others. I try to participate the best, most helpful way that I possibly can.

As I leave the board today, I am leaving feeling much better about myself, because I read others who are experiencing the exact same feelings that I've been struggling with. It has helped me to realize I am not alone, and I am not doing anything wrong to cause myself to feel that way. It was just what I needed, and I thank you all for helping me.

Just my humble 2¢ worth. :)

Bailey

Friends -

Transparency if I may be so politically correct is most always a good thing in the long run.

Heck, most decisions here I'd bet are the right ones, so why not let the good news out.

I've always thought the real thing couldn't be any worse than our worst fantasy:)

Best regards, Doug

PS Sorry, I tend to type my login name TDurden1937. I forget we are on first name basis.

Hi, I'm new and was not sure what issues were in question. I would agree with discretion in disclosure, for the good of the whole.

Chissi

Bailey - thank you for your post so full of common sense and compassion. You helped me immensely in this debate.

Grace

The bottom line for me is similar to what Marlene said earlier about it not being her playground or her rules. This is how I feel also. I don't own the forum, I don't pay for it, I chose to come here and I clicked "yes" to the terms and conditions when I registered. Honestly, having been on several other forums and having been a moderator on other forums as well, I know how hard it is to moderate and edit. Piles and piles of bullshit goes on behind the scenes that regular members know nothing about. It really isn't fair to judge moderators and editors for their decisions, given what limited knowledge we "regular" members have here. We never know the whole story. I just accept things, and if I didn't want to accept things, I would leave. It's as simple as that for me and I don't lose any sleep over it.

I too voted Yes for full discloser. I feel the same as a few others that if you don't like the rules, well then just leave.

There aren't too many rules here to begin with. I have been on other boards and you can't say ANYTHING!!!!!! I mean that... You have to skirt issues, you can't talk openly about your trauma, or what you did to cope with your symptoms. You had to be evasive in explaining. You could not know or ask any personal information, only peer support, no outside contact. No PM's, no chat, no off topic conversations.... nothing.

I also think that when you go from member status, to moderated then you apparently have crossed a line. You can either stay and try to redeem yourself, or hightail it out of here.

Just my 2 cents.