It is no one's business but their own.

we need to know who we are freinds with or not we've got enough on our tables
let us not be fooled

I like transparency with respect.

Being new here, I am not sure about how things work. I do like descretion to be maintained..but enjoy honesty. I don't think my vote is very valid at this point..not knowing enough about the forum yet.

Good luck with the disclosure vote. Voting is fun isn't it. even when it's meaningless, which is at all times, right? Ooops, there is the dissociation and C-PTSD numbness nagging already, sorry folks. maybe I should slink away back to counting the seconds.

NorthernPunch, no one's vote is "meaningless".

I agree with this statement in terms of open disclosure. As long as matters are dealt with in a standardized manner, I believe would negate any individual feeling 'got at'.

Perhaps discretion for both (open/closed) depending on what the breech was/is?

Spirit

I guess Anthony is rather like a sheperd - ensuring the flock stay within the boundaries of safety set out for this forum. Which is why I feel it is important to have established guidelines. When I first joined I did not know how these domains worked - I did not realise there was one person who herded the flock (as it were). I made mistakes and reacted to some comments that were made about them ( i did not realise they were editorial). I guess I felt that the comments were accusatory, implying an agenda for why I did something.

I was defensive about that! I get it more now! I guess this is why I feel it would be usefull to have a standardized response to someones actions on here. That way it does not make it personal and ensures that people see their mistakes or otherwise as just that! Rather than pointing the finger, which I know is not what you are doing.

It must be hard for you Anthony to always remain objective (tough job)!

Could there be a way that people have to read the FAQ's or forum policies before they are able to comment on here? I guess I was blindsighted to them in my nervous rush to say hello and reach out.

Just my thoughts.

Thanks

Spirit

There is no real set way in which to make a person read them before signing up.... this is partly why moderation exists, to ensure members comply to editorial standards before being allowed out of moderation. The majority comply and have no further issues.

Anthony, as a completely new member under the initial moderation, I'd like to see the admind decisions in the open so that I have a clear idea of what not to say. For instance, sometimes I want to talk about the events in detail to someone who won't look at me like I'm a freak who should be in a mental hospital. Is it obscene? What qualifies as obscene? What if something I post ends up being a trigger for someone else? How do I as a new member know these things without spending ages reading through the backlog of every post ever written? Seeing things in the open will help us newbies avoid making the same mistakes. I'm also really grateful I found this place.