I thank those males who have recently joined and begun sharing more of themselves within the forum to help balance the forums approach. Not that either really matters, but even sexes tends to keep a good perspective on forum conversation as both sexes think very differently; both have positives and negatives. Women are a good learning source for communicating skills and emotional understanding, where males provide a typically logical / commonsense approach to things as we often do not think as emotionally as women. Women have a lower self esteem more often than not than a male, so a male balance can assist women building their self esteem here to obtain that assertive personality instead of passive or passive/aggressive that is more often found in women. Men have the opposite problem, where it is typically aggressive or arrogant personality. Equality of sexes here helps both bring themselves to the middle, being assertive. Not passive, not aggressive, not a combination where you insult a person with a smile, arrogance lessens and both win win.

I would like to thank all members though and do hope the male influence continues to grow, and not with the alpha male type personality where one must try and dominate, instead we all listen and learn from each other, not be measuring penis size as seems some males love to try and do when they come here. I certainly do not want the forum, nor will allow it to come, anything like a military type forum where males dominate and are all trying to out do one another and end up full of shit and enabling each others bad behaviours.

Again, I like balance and appreciate even more males balanced influence and approach here and learn from one another's experience, as that is what this forum is about, sharing experience and learning from each other to improve ourselves. Thank you for those who are helping achieve that and showing they are man enough to talk about emotions. It only makes you a greater man I believe. I learnt that the hard way myself.... thinking I could keep it all to myself and I failed. I know better myself now and believe it has definitely improved who I am today as a result. Hell, it took me 17 years to cry, but I achieved that last year finally. Only helped me, not hindered me....

Other males who read here and are scared to post and interact because they may feel they are too manly or the like, I ask you to reconsider and help yourself, help others, help the forum obtain a balanced approach so we all learn at a faster rate. That is the idea after all... to hopefully lessen another's pain and improve the healing rate.

Food for thought.... my two cents.

I've been triggered by some of the military stuff being posted here lately, but I'm really happy to see more males posting. I think it will be a good thing and help to balance out the forum more, with more men participating. Though I will say, not all men are aggressive tough guys, some are really sensitive and emotional. And not all women are passive aggressive either, some are naturally very direct and openly aggressive even. It's kind of a stereotype to put all women into one category and all men into another.

Nice comment mate . . . especially about the penis size!!!!

Agreed, what a colorful metaphor. I was pondering how that would work on the forum and imagined all the men on the forum trying to draw the largest ASCII text penis. As hard as I would laugh at such a thing, this probably isn't the place for it.

And I agree with Evie about the stereotypes, sometimes women enter the penis contest too. Just look at the Smurfit-Stone building in Chicago; A giant Vagina in the sky next to all the huge phallic symbols we know as sky scrapers. Rumor has it that it was designed as a statement from a feminist architect.

Oh, and thanks Anthony. Always nice to feel appreciated!

Don't believe I did at all, and just reread and did not find where I put all males or females into any one category, instead used words such as "majority" or "more often" and such terms. Presumption Evie.....

I'm also glad more males are posting and it's certainly interesting to hear/read some of their perspectives. Anthony, I agree with most of what you say, but you do seem to stick women into the emotional category and men into the logical category...and I think maybe that's what Evie was referring to (Evie, correct me if I'm wrong) and also Anthony correct me if I'm wrong LOL

Yes that was what I meant.

I agree, Evie. =)

I totally agree Anthony. More blokes has made a big difference very quickly. Its much better with the balance.