I agree with Becvan and Anthony. It sounds strange. My "t" and I are close but not on that level. We respect each other and he sincerely listens to me and shows geniune concern for my problems. It would be nice to be friends with him and his family or neighbors but awkward and not right. That would be like being friendly with your gynocoligist or Ob doc. What's said in the office stays in the office but nothing unethnical. I know he has 2 boys and their ages but that's it. Please move on!
sunnydaze

Hi Cathy, I want to add to this a little based on my experience. I was pregnant and not married to my boyfriend back then. As his girlfriend I went to all of his family functions and was friendly and shared things with them, as they did me.

They are very religious so I was a bit uncomfortable revealing I was pregnant and not married. I hid it from them until I was 6 months. finally, one of his SIL seen my bulging stomach and straight asked me if I was pregnant.

His family was upset with him over this. It was not just "his news" to tell, it was mine too. This was a decision I made and he was not to tell anyone and I had my own reasons for doing this as well. I loved his family as if they were my own and would have been devastated if they didn't forgive me. But I had some things I was working through at the time and didn't need the added stress of them knowing about it.

His family was deeply hurt and still don't understand, but we have all moved past it and I love them dearly and think they feel the same about me.

Also, I don't owe anyone on this earth an explanation of what secrets I keep and why. I might want to weigh it out to see if I want to keep them as a friend and tell them why I with held information if they are going to end the friendship based on my secret. But, this is my choice and it doesn't mean that the person I'm keeping the secret from is not my friend or I don't trust them.

My best advice is that you find out why she didn't tell you, and go from there. I wouldn't just end the friendship until you get all of the facts. If you don't get all of the facts there may be a valid reason that has nothing to do with her not trusting you.

Just remember things aren't always as they seem.

Take care
Tammy

I spoke with her today and it turns out that i was upset for nothing. They have not told hardly anyone because they are afraid of her losing the baby, so they are not telling anyone until the birth. i have not been excluded at all, we are still friends, she does not hate me, etc. etc.
I am having all kinds of problems now because my antidepressant stopped working and I am not perceiving reality like I should.

I sincerely appreciate all your thoughtful responses!

Well done... clarification often helps a lot of things in life, instead of presumption of what you do not know. Well done...

2quilt Although having a personal relationship with your professional carer is unusual, it isn't heard of. My Nurse Practitioner and I have a very good relationship. It's not a total friendship, and yet more than patient/nurse. We talk about her kids, and mine. She has given me her home phone # and private work #, and she came to visit me in the hospital when I was hospitalized once.

I am glad that you worked things out, and you had the courage to be up front with your feelings and you asked her. Good job!!!!

Thanks to all of you. I really appreciate hearing the thoughts of others when I have a problem because my version of reality is skewed due to PTSD, and even more so now that my meds are failing. I need to hear the opinions of others to get a better bearing on what normal is, and if I am forgetting anything, and it really helps me to see a problem from a variety of sides.