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27-02-2008, 10:21 AM
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| |  Do You Get Angry When You Have To Speak?
This is a bit of a strange question. I'm in a FOUL mood right now... like just fell straight into this mood...
I am fine if I am "talking" via non-speaking means (email, text, MSN whatever)... and by this I mean just talking - not about anything specific.
But if I have to speak... immediately I am feeling really irritable/angry and unable to hide it. One word answers, and feel really angry if someone then asks me another question on the same topic or comments on my quietness...
But if the same questions or conversation happened via non-speaking means - I'm fine. Like now, I'm fine... but if anyone was in the room and talking to me, I think I'd probably give a smack!...
Anyone find this, or understand why I'm feeling this way?
Last edited by Lisa; 27-02-2008 at 10:24 AM.
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27-02-2008, 10:29 AM
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Not angry... sometimes frustrated or annoyed. Definitely don't know why some people have to make a big deal when I feel like being quiet rather than talkative, like there's something wrong with me. |
27-02-2008, 11:36 AM
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I feel like this, too, Lisa!
Sometimes when I can't talk, I feel scared, frozen. Sometimes I feel like nothing I say is worth anything. And sometimes I just want to be left alone, and being in situations where I have to speak make me feel forced, pushed--which pisses me off beyond belief. |
27-02-2008, 02:48 PM
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I get frustrated if someone expects me to answer them. They might be asking 'whats for dinner' or 'have you seen the stapler' and I will be "WHAAAAAAAAATTT" and over react.
It's not so much that I don't want to speak, but that I feel that people are asking too much of me, demanding too much, even if the request is relatively minor. Even how are you, can be annoying!! |
29-02-2008, 06:58 PM
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I said yes...This happens to me a lot...or I'm ok giving a short answer and then when people (usually family memebers) ask for an explanation or elaboration I go nuts...and of course, they wonder why I react the way I do...which often makes it worse. Or...if they're waiting for an answer but somoene else asks something in ht emeantime and as I'm answering that person the other one (who wasn't listening to my response) keeps askinng impatiently ...I totally lose it. Or if there's something they didn't catch on TV and want me to explain it in the mother tongue and I can't rememebr the words...again...I lose it and the expectation in their voice/look just makes it worse. Great poll Lisa :) |
31-03-2008, 07:20 PM
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I put no, but that's not true. I use to be so angry all the time. I had a wonderful job I loved , a career. and that's another story. I am not mad today & I'd like to think I have forgiven my nursing co ordinator, my union rep,both the clients and myself. |
18-07-2008, 05:06 AM
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you just described me in one! i hate it |
22-07-2008, 02:53 AM
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Wow, another characteristic that I thought was just me being mercurial and strange, but must be PTSD related.
I think, for me, it's about needing to pull in and regroup and figure out what's happening internally, so if someone talks to me it's this obligate stimulus and, yeah, it pissed me off.
I start answering in very short, monotone answers. I guess I might try being direct, "I really need quiet right now"....but I haven't tried that too much yet.
-Dylan |
22-07-2008, 01:39 PM
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i was commander of vfw and dav. i had to speak to groups when flags was presented to a school that flew at the national capital. i never had any problem with that. i anser no because i though you were talking about public speaking. i can get very angry when family questions me on things. if my parents on the phone start asking to many questions i will start yelling at them over the phone. most people see me as a very quit person. i am that way tell i get to know them better. |
22-07-2008, 04:46 PM
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As a soldier and a leader, I was always a strong speaker and very confident. But now I have great difficulty even with simple conversation whether it be one on one, to a group of people, in person or over the phone. My initial and short term memory is greatly impaired and I have a lot of trouble finding my words when I am anxious. Which in turn causes me to get frustrated and increases the problem. When it gets real bad, I start stuttering. But I never get angry. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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