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20-03-2008, 12:58 AM
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Love is something that can't be put down in words really...we can try but...it wont ever work really. You FEEL love. You know it when you feel it...it's like nothing ever...
When someone loves you or you love someone...or both at the same time hopefully ;)
you don't question certain things....in fact lots of things really don't matter anymore.
I mean this is how I feel anyway...lol |
20-03-2008, 01:55 AM
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I was brought up to understand love as an act of caring for those around you. Being of service, without any negative feelings. Cooking, cleaning, putting up with everyone's abuse without showing any effect. Being totally compliant with the person you are supposed to love. Not giving them any need for upset.
In other words. I never felt love, therefore I never understood it.......
Not until I had my beautiful son. I do want to take care of him, yes-but I also want to share things with him, show him things, spend time with him, and just give him a hug. I don't want any harm to come to him, and I want to help him grow into a happy, loving, successful man. I want to nurture him as I was never nurtured.
That is now my understanding of love. I love my son (and my dog) |
20-03-2008, 02:50 AM
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I think this is a lovely thread 
Love; a warm knowing smile, even when things are not going great! An outstreched hand even if you believe the other person may not reach out and grab it. Acceptance, of an individuals limitations, their power to grow, their vision of life, all sides of them. A light on when you return home, a meal cooked with love, a look that has meaning between the two, a warm bed, indepedence and togetherness. Sharing dreams and helping to facilitate them. Knowing that they can never disappoint! 'To actively listen and allow yourself to learn from them, not to judge. ' To accept yourself so you can truly love others'.
Spirit x |
20-03-2008, 06:05 AM
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I can't claim to be able to define love, but I think I've seen it in several instances.
1. For me personally, I often feel it when I look into my best friend's eyes and get the safe, secure, and happy feeling that no matter what happens, no matter how irrational or crazy I get, he will never abandon me.
2. One time I was in a hospital waiting room and I saw a woman getting angry. I think she was either very ill or high on drugs. A man was with her and as she got angrier and angrier she turned on him and started screaming at him and hitting him. He didn't get angry in return; he just held her and talked gently to her. I think that was an example of love.
There are lots more but many instances where I find love are just too indescribable... |
20-03-2008, 08:44 AM
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Wow, this thread about 'love' is like reading any thread about 'God'... I think I just threw up in my mouth. No, I am just kidding (about the love part).
I first learned what love is from my first born niece. I learned about the love of a child and the love for a child. I learned that it is unconditional and pure.
I have yet to discover if this kind of love is possible with other relationships. |
20-03-2008, 08:50 AM
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*sigh* the love for a child. It is seriously the most wonderful feeling in the entire world. When my daughter was born, everything changed. Everything. I had never felt that way in my life.
When I met my husband, I had never felt that way, either. The love is just as strong for both of them, but it is a different kind of love.
I guess it goes back to what I said earlier in the thread - that love is created. |
20-03-2008, 09:20 AM
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I have never found the love I speak of with a mate but I have found it through my beautiful boy. I wish to love like this and to be loved back in the same way with someone I can call my 'soul mate'.
A gentle kiss when you least expect it!
Spirit x |
21-03-2008, 02:07 PM
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Years ago I asked my mother how I would know if I was in "Love"
Her response surprised me . She said "Love is caring for the other person more than you care for yourself" |
21-03-2008, 02:12 PM
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Love is what you DO, not how you feel. Did you know love, lust, pain all have different places in the brain where they are experienced? I wish they could excise the ptsd. |
21-03-2008, 10:22 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by pandora  Love has only shown me hurt and abandonment. |
That was not love Pandora, that was the misguided, who also do not know how to love. Love never abandons you once you have it in your heart. Love is what we should give to oursleves. I believe this, no matter how hurt or betrayred I have been. Love comes from within and then surrounds you. I am waiting too, to feel it every day no matter how the wolrd wakes up and behaves.
Spirit x
Last edited by spiritofnow; 21-03-2008 at 10:24 PM.
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