I have been privy to some interesting situations of late & have watched people act out of greed & hatred with no concern to the consequence to others involved. I am interested to see what people think.

Do you act out of emotion or greed in personal situations or are you respectful of others?

It is always my intention to be respectul and charitable to others, but sometimes I fail. When I realize that I was greedy or selfish I feel very guilty and try to make it right.

Yes I have a conscience. For my children and husband this is my slogan:
FAMILY = Forget About Me, I Love You.

It works well in friendships as well. It is good to focus on others.

I have the BIGGEST conscience! Sometimes it definitley has worked against me as I would respect other peoples' personal boundaries and well-being more than my own.

I have/had the biggest fear of upsetting people, I guess this is triggered by acceptance, not feeling accepted or that I don't totally accept myself.

I can be much more rational about it these days but I still defnintely have my moments.

I was chatting to someone about this the other day. I treat others, with kindness, compassion and respect as that is how I wish to be treated. I guess the problem here is that I do not bestow those important qualities upon myslef, so when someone does negate to observe these quailites with regards to me. I get so hurt by it!

I dislike how badly people behave towards one another, with little or no regards to the consequences of their actions. I have a close friend who was treated terribly by some mature Uni students. I was the only person in the group to stand up and say NO! I dissociated myself from the people who had behaved so terribly and told them quitely and calmly when they asked me why I was not hanging out with them. I just said 'I choose to dissociate mysllf from you and your behaviour, they pushed for more reasons and I told them that I did not have to justify my actions to them and wished them no malice. Fairness and justice in life is a integral part of who I am! (This was a huge step for me in terms of setting my own boundaries and sticking to them. It was very hard and I did second guess my actions for a while).

If I am having a really bad, bad day, the anger and frustration, I can behave less like this. I do try not to though, I just feel to bad about it!

Spirit x

Yes, I do have a conscience that works overtime.

I am extreamly rational over emotional. Regardless if its about me or someone else I think about all the ways any action affects any person involved before I do anything. I also do this when I need to tell someone something important.

I do this not out of fear of hurting someone or myself but rather what all the possible outcomes could be and decide if the outcome might be worth the issue that is at hand. Like say someone said or did something to me that bothers me, I decide if its so important and what it will change, good or bad, if I do or say something to this person.

Well... When I was out of control with PTSD, and my behavior was also out of control, NO!!!! I didn't give 2 craps about anyone or thing to be quite honest. All I cared about was drinking, drugs, parties, and running from my demons, and myself.

Now that I have been through therapy, seen the damage I left behind. Yes... I do care very deeply about people and I try not to hurt others. Sometimes I fail, but I do work toward being a better person, and having a conscience.

I have a lot of guilt, and remorse for the hurt that I have caused others in the past.

I agree with She Cat. When I was younger and drank and did drugs I didn't care about anyone but myself unless I was sober.

After 3 years of therapy I stopped the drinking and drugs. I found I had a conscious and it was in over drive because I felt so guilty about what I had done. This guilt had carried over for many years and I'm just now starting to let go of the shame and guilt over what I did.

I have to forgive myself or I will remain sick.

I do. But I have to think about me and how much hurt I can handle. If someone hurts me or crosses one of my personal boundaries once, I'll put a red flag up and proceed with caution. I will also tell the person what boundaries I have and that they just crossed it. If that same person hurts me or crosses my boundary a second time - I'm gone. I will not accept an apology, read an email from them, return a phone call. To them, I'm as gone as if I were never born. Right or wrong, it's the only way I know to remove myself from further harm.

Along with She Cat and Seeking Nirvana I to could have cared less about others during the height of my downward spiral. I was all about ME! I gave no consideration to others at all.

I can proudly say that I am more aware of other feelings and think before I act "most of the time".

Becoming aware of how nice people behave and having my poor behavior pointed out to me has also helped my conscious. I would like to think I have become a good and caring person.

The old Grama-Herc was not very nice or considerate. I don't like her very much. I certainly would not hang out with her "now". She is not someone I would chose for a friend now.

There have definitely been times that I was not very nice under the influence of drugs and alcohol however the next morning my conscious would kick in and I would feel badly. When I'm sober (and that's always now, besides my prescribed meds) I'm overly conscious and basically live my life to make sure that everyone I care about is okay and not feeling hurt in any way.