I just figured out why I reacted to this woman in an unappropiate way. I called her twice leaving her nasty messages due to my worry and concern of her 3 year old son whom she was not putting in restraint while driving. My 2 year old cousin fell out of his dad's car years ago and his dad(my uncle) ran over him and killed him. Yes, he was not buckled in and was playing with the door handle and out he fell. He was right arouind the corner from his home and his bigger brother heard the sirens and told his mom some little kid probably got hurt not knowing it was his brother.
I had a trigger of this a few days ago and now understand why I cannot and will not tolerate children being driven in a car without a carseat or booster seat. I love children as previously stated and have deep concern for all of them. I guess it triggered me into P.T.S.D. mode. I have now developed a twitch on my left side of the face since this argument with the woman. My what nerves can do to a person.
sunnydaze

Sunnydaze, I realize that you have emotional issues over this. But I have to ask how you feel you are making things better? You're making yourself mad over this, and it's not accomplishing anything. Instead of continually getting mad, just don't have anything to do with her.
You gave her a seat to use, and she is the one that decides not to use it. If you feel that strongly about it, talk to the authorities.

But to call her when you're angry? Is that right? If someone called me angry because they don't approve of how I'm raising my kids, I'd be less than hospitable.

Don't hate me for saying this, but you have done all you can do. You have done all you should do. The boy ain't yours.

It's out of your hands.

cactus jack,
Yes, you gave me good advise. I have let it go. My only regret is calling her leaving messages with anger. However, I realize just because I am nice to someone and go out of my way that the same will be in returned. This may be why she doesn't have many friends. I chose not to be around her no more than necessary but not on a 'were best friends" term. I just know if that child gets harmed in anyway, I did what I could to try and stop it. Now it lays on her and her mothers shoulders if they want to continue not safeguarding this child. I will stick to my guns however and not let her in my car when she needs a ride if she isn't equipped with her child nor will I get in her car and drive around if he is not secured.
Thanks again,, we all need advise here and there.
sunnydaze