We all have 5 basic human needs.....

1.to be safe
2.to trust
3. to feel contol over ones life
4. the need to feel value
5. the need to feel close to others


I will find a way ouf of this speechless terror.

I will stop waiting for the next ball to drop.

If you have skeletons in your closet than you might as well dance with them.

My mother shall own what she does and what she did it is not my fault.

The task of therapy is to transform neurotic misery into ordinary happiness.

Talking helps to reencode traumatic memory into narrative memory.

Healthy nurturance and loving touch are essential for human beings to develop and survive.

To regain safety...you must complete the unfinished past.

Elaboration or dissacociation of defences can cause a develoment of a fragmented identity...as you get older it may interfere with adult relationships.

Abuse is like a bad seed that is planted there right in your mind and it has to be understood and thrown away to ensure it doesn't grow there.

The past can't be changed...the future is open to new opportunities.

Dig through the right room in your brain.

God only gives us what we can handle.

You deserve to be loved and experience love.

I won't walk on eggshells anymore for my family..I will cut the conversation and accept no more abuse.

I can do this!!!!I have suffered more abuse...verbal abuse ignores the basic needs of its victims......I am safe, I need to learn to trust, I am now in control of my life..I would love to feel valued...I want to feel close to another adult.....I don't.

"There is that...that you need to heel your inner child and heal the shame that binds.

verbal and physical abuse can currupt the values and beleifs of the victims behaviours.

I realize that some of my behaviours are because i have a hard time loving myself.

Verbal abuse destroys self esteem.

Verbal abuse exploits its victims and there beleifs......gives then a temporary sense of power.

Look at your life like a book...don't peek at the ending, accept and look forward to every new page like it is a new day...don't worry about the ending!

Battle....battle through the negative with optimism.

Live each day as it is your last.

Sorry this was so long but there are some nice readings here, I thought I might share!

I was actually surprised no one commented...I was actually quite proud of this list....I was going to put it in my diary but thought it would benefit more here. Thats ok....I read it about three times today...positive thoughts, positive thoughts.

Pand,

I liked it! I'm glad you posted it, there were quite a few that I know I need to tell myself on a daily basis.

OK....Here's a response....You have a lot of good ideas there!!...I too like to affirm the good things in my life....More like a Gratitude List....I am especially grateful that I don't allow any "friends" to use me as a doormat....I have learned to set boundaries....I have learned to stick to them when I find that others strongly push against them and attempt to harm me....I know I can protect myself from abuse on the phone.....catch this....by hanging up!!! A few years ago I was taught this and at the time it was a novel idea to me!!! But in the last few years I have done this and it's a great change for me!!!! ALL CHANGE IS NOT BAD!!!!! It's hard to change but I've found in the end it resulted in me living a better life!!! ......ENJOYING THE PEACE

Thanks for your posts. I like to read them I have to restart and start adding it truly helps with the negative...when all you are trying to push away the negative, at least in my case how stupid I am and how many mistakes I have made......my mom is sick...I am neither of those things..... Have hung up on my brother and now I say i have to go to her and then i hang up.

Sorry Pandora. When I read this the first time I was triggered by another post in another thread and was unable to focus. I think it's a great list and I'm especially glad that you are using it at this most trying time in your life.

I myself will probably come back to it again and again. Thank you for sharing it.

Take care, Morgan

Damn girl, didn't know I was the only one that enjoys immediate gratification!

I am going to wait.........and thoughtfully digest what you wrote..... before I respond! Hah, hah!

Your friend,
tude

When my mind goes into overtime...it doesn't stop. I have always been a bookworm and i have researched the heck out of this disorder and i am trying to live with it and take each day minute by minute.......my thought process is well75% better..........I really try to watch what i say but sometimes the negative does take over. I feel stupid because of things I have done..it doesn't mean i am stupid. I am an RN...How can I be stupid. I was the youngest in my class...how could I be stupid..alot of people failed out..I worked two part time jobs and school full time on my own...I had financial assistance..I paid it back after i bought my house...all on my own..being really alone at 15 and floating everywhere...sometimes no where..went to school from the psychiatric ward..I was 16/17, I think. Those years were awful...ok again... I am venting in a thread..I have been doing that alot..Not having my roommate around so much is making me a lot more alone. I like having her come back...we don't see each other much but at least we are not fighting...she has to find a place to move to.......ok time to move on to my diary...my brain feels like i just need a huge catharsis and I am feeling mad abit now..maybe I will list why i am pissed....haven't done that before.....mood swings...gotta love that.....thank you for taking the time to read this and decipher it...i know what I am writing but others may not understand.........

I just read it again...even though I had a meltdown at the doctors at just about everything and getting in to see her is nearly next to impossible...I guess that was a perk because she saw me grow up, do well, fall down and keep getting back up over and over and over and over...i know some mds ( as i worked for one for 6 months) HE PRIDED HIMSELF ON SEEING PATIENTS...IN AND OUT...7 MINUTES. RIP.....

Anyway..I am too tired and rambling I just found that she took and takes extra time....my doctor likes me more than my mother...sad....

I am going to continue to change these thoughts...I want 2008 to be a better year...I was determined at new year....I just hit a rocky mountain and part of a cliff is left but still there...so I am starting a bit late this year!

Thank you for sharing your list pandora; its really good! I like the idea of looking at your life like a book. It made me think of different times in my life and what I might title them if they were chapters in that book.

"You deserve to be loved and experience love." - That one gave me a smile. Thank you! :)