tude

While I realize that you have better things to do with your time than worry about some "reputation button", there are those of us that feel the need to know that we are indeed helping.

To be here and constantly take and never give back is an issue with me. It is also, apparently, important to Pandora. I know how she feels. The ability help someone besides ourselves is important.

To always be on the receiving end of this forum makes us feel bad. I, along with Pandora want to be able to at least "think" we may have impacted the life of another person in something we said.

The "reputation button" is a nice small way for someone to say "Thank you, You helped me today".

So don't be so quick to dismiss that silly little button, it is important to many people in this forum

I understand both points of view. Some here need to feel that they are not her to make friends, but to get help. Others feel the need to be helpful. I am kind of both ways. Yes I love the bond I have with a few of the members, but I also like to help. NOW I wish I had the courage to look within and FIX myself. Forgiveness of myself would be nice....

Anyway, I do understand both sides of the issue. It comes down to what is more important for each member.......Personal choice again.....

I have to be totally honest and say that I never taken any notice to those little green buttons. I didn't even realise what they where until I read this post and did a bit of poking around the forum.

I can understand both sides too. I understand how members would want to feel they are helping others. Personally, I don't feel wise enough to 'help' others: maybe that's why I've never noticed the rep thing before. So, in that respect, I'm not interested in my own rep points.

However, lots of members here have helped me, and I've never clicked the button. But, now that I'm aware of it, this is something I'll consider in the future.

Thanks for bringing this feature to my attention. I don't think there is any need to apologise though. It may sound selfish, but I guess we all do what we can to survive. Sometimes that is giving, sometimes it is taking. I hope that some day things will improve for me, so that I can do more giving and less taking... but in the mean time, I'll listen to any advice that is offered!

Wow.....I didn't think this would cause such a discussion.

I understand both positions and in my case I am very alone and isolated and feeling like I helped someone and actually telling them why or just acknowledging REALLY helps me.....in return the times that i have felt supported I might not be here without this forum. Sorry if i offended anyone. I also feel like sometimes with my nursing background..I really am making a positive difference. Not working and not getting positive feedback has really taken my self esteem and I am still trying to find it. So I guess it is all about different people and different personalities.In my case this was helpful....but everyone lives very different lives.

Pandora

We are so similar in our feeling, emotions and circumstances that it is frightening. I totally get the needed to feel like you have some how, in some way helped some one.

For a long time all I did here was take. I remember the feeling the 1st time someone
said thank you to me for something I had said. To know I had actually helped some one, even if it was just a smile I caused.

It is actually healing to know you helped some one. It is a validation that you do indeed exist! ! !

Sometime back I got into a huge "todo" here about the same subject. In fact, it caused quite a stir. I, like you, had no idea it would cause such a stir. But, you know me-----I love to stir the pot.

Yes people a here to heal. But isn't interaction with others part of that? But I am rambling so anyway, that's my 2 cents

Grama-Herc,

Thank you for clearly making me aware how important it is for you and others to feel helpful to people. I did not realize how much influence one's 'reputation' has on someone's self-esteem.

Although I will not give any value to the green dots, I wanted to tell you that I can acknowledge that others do place value in them.

tude

Thank you grama Herc......and no harm done Tude.