Grace raised a point which I will outline here to help some who state or think what Grace wrote; saying they are sometimes scared to write something here because they don't want it taken as if they are looking or garnishing sympathy, as this forums practice is not to tolerate such things in excess based on the principles of sympathy vs. facing fear combined with denial, it all just doesn't mix well to help a sufferer through the very tough trauma therapy stage.

So.... writing here is like writing a novel. If you read novels then you would be used to reading emotion from the writer. The writer has to express in text the emotion felt, what thoughts are going through a characters head, etc etc... they cannot leave anything to the readers imagination because reading text is very different to reading a person face to face, where you can see expression and body language, you can hear tone, you can smell even, your sense are all working through the interpretation process before you respond.

Forum.... text.... you cannot comprehend or interpret such things unless they are expressly stated within the text, leaving nothing for the reader to interpret or misinterpret emotionally speaking. If you expressly have a thought that something you write could be misconstrued for sympathy, then you must write that exact thing, that you are not feeling a need for sympathy or requiring it, but you feel x, y and z.

Without filling in all the blanks, a response can come from many angles, many different forms and variations off interpretation. Remove as much interpretation as possible and often the responses are accurate to what you write.

This is also why within the forum legal policy and rules, it clearly states to ask if in doubt.... if the answer is what you interpreted, then you can continue challenging or putting forward your own opinion with all the facts as you could know at that given time.