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14-04-2008, 01:01 PM
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Originally Posted by 2quilt  I will pet any animal and I prefer animals to people sometimes. | Me too!
I shamefully admit that I sometimes get irritated because my daughter is extremely touchy/feely and a lot of times I have to tell her to stop because my skin starts to crawl for no apparent reason other than I'm not used to being touched a lot in that way (I can't ever remember a time my mother touched/hugged/kissed me, her only form of contact was by hitting). Anyway, when my daughter was an infant, I held her incessantly, which is why I think my daughter is so affectionate in that way now. But now that she is older, for some reason, I get irritated a lot times when she "rubs" my arm or legs or feet. However, I could rub my cat or dog all day long.
Maybe I should talk to my T about that. Hmmm....  |
14-04-2008, 03:40 PM
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Right after my trauma I had such a profound need to always be near and touch my husband, no matter how small, like my foot resting against his, my hand on his arm. The profoundness has gone away but I still have some need of it. I'm not much of a touchy feely person but I do enjoy a hug now and then from someone I love and trust. My niece gives the best hugs and she always seems to know when I need them the most. |
14-04-2008, 09:10 PM
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Nicolette:
Do you have any specifics on the hug tests? Like who they tested and how, stuff like that? I'm curious to see what type of limitations it had. Rather interesting.
I also prefer animal touch to human. :)
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15-04-2008, 12:18 AM
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When I asked this question, I did not take into account that it may take the direction
of hugs from people other than family/loved ones!
I am so glad to see the type of interest this has evoked. I was hoping to get the answer I was seeking, and I did.
It has been WAY to long since I received a hug. Even though I live with mother, I sudenly realized that we never hug! A situation that is going to be corrected this
very day!
The way a hug makes me feel is so comforting and safe and warm. It is just like
taking a big deep breath makes you feel. Relaxed and away from the stress.
I can't believe I have allowed this basic human need to fall by the way side with
mom. But then, when I think about it we never were a touchy, feely family!
I need a hug today. So when she wakes up , I'm gonna get one. So my next question to you is this. Have you hugged your loved one today? |
15-04-2008, 03:01 AM
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I used to think that I hated being touched. I would feel eeked out if someone I didn't know even brushed against me (and still do to some degree). During the past few years though I have realized that the right person can make being touched one of the most wonderful experiences for me. When my husband hugs me I feel like nothing can go wrong, ever! I don't think we've gone one single day that we've been together without sharing a hug.
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15-04-2008, 04:50 AM
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I hug my dad almost every morning, (unless I'm mad at him for saying something stupid to me). It has done wonders for me. It makes me feel loved and connected. I too prefer animals to human but not necessarily when it comes to family. I do however hate it when a stranger or someone I barely know hugs me. It can make me feel violated.
My mom and I hug once in awhile but she's not very touchy, feely at all. |
15-04-2008, 07:04 AM
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Originally Posted by becvan Do you have any specifics on the hug tests? |
It was done by the British Health Foundation. If you go to google and type in medical benefits of a hug and go to the result under BBC News - news.bbc.co.uk it will tell you there.
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15-04-2008, 12:36 PM
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I've done some googling on 'somatic' therapy with people suffering from trauma.
I'm not a naturally huggy person, but massage I enjoy. In fact I really crave that non-sexual non-emotional professional touch, if that makes any sense!
I also have a confession - I do not like dogs. And those little creatures will seek me out every time & slober all over me, jumping up & down. Seriously there will be 99 dog lovers in the room, and they will seek out me. People look at me strangely for pushing the dog away. |
15-04-2008, 11:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Awakening II do not like dogs. And those little creatures will seek me out every time & slober all over me, jumping up & down. | They obviously like you! 
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16-04-2008, 12:27 AM
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Every once in a long while I will notice that I am suffering from what I call 'skin hunger'. That is when I usually seek out a massage therapist for a session or two. Touch deprivation is the norm for me. And so, like others here I have difficulty interpreting and tolerating touch. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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