I agree 100% with these statements bec made. They will probably never get it but if they are willing to let you share your struggles with them now and again and listen, it helps. I also have lowered my expectations of my family about them really helping me other than being a sounding board.

Two family members I have learned are not beneficial to share with and I choose not to share with them. However my sister and daughter at times can be very good listeners and offer feedback that sometimes helps. They don't understand the complexity or the source of the emotions but they can offer ways to look at things differently.

I've learned to take what I can get and accept that. I have also learned they are not always receptive to what I need or willing to listen. But when they are it feels good. So I take what I can get and accept that is their limits.

Family not being able to understand is not a reflection of how much they love you. It is only their personal limits and there is nothing you can probably do to change that. Accept it for what it is regarding yourself and your expectations of them. But understand they do care for you but are unable to cross that bridge with you for whatever reasons they may have.