Spirit,

I do love your attempts at bringing everyone together, it's admirable. I've got to be honest with you though - I don't think that we are all on the same side, here.

I'm not sure what the essence of this thread was and why now we have lost it, maybe you could elaborate. Nic was inquiring about her OBGYN's statements and yes, the thread has forked off into subcategories but I think, especially in my last post, I pointed out why I felt her OBGYN went beyond her call of duty.

Best,
Rachel

Hmm...I've been away on vacation for a few days, so I just got around to reading these. A couple of comments...

1. There are many ways in which to collect the, um, "materials" so to speak, that are needed to have a child. I went off the pill to regulate my cycle and to prepare my body so that when I do decide to get pregnant, my body will be ready. (I had a friend get pregnant while she was on the pill, and there can be some issues with this.) I am an honest person. I would never "trap" a guy; my current partner knows that I am not on the pill.

2. Thank you to those who recognize that this post was about a comment made, NOT about my decision whether or not to have children.

3. Also, thank you to those who recognize that we all have unique lives/experiences. PTSD affects us all, but some of us work/function differently under various conditions.

4. As far as "reading many posts on this issue," if you read carefully, I HAVE NEVER asked for anyone's opinion as to whether or not I should have a child, and the posts/threads that I have written relating to pregnancy are different. This thread was not so much about pregnancy, but rather about the (what I perceived as) unfair treatment due to the PTSD label. Also, I write about the things that affect me and what's going on in my life regarding the PTSD; right now, this is. If you don't want to read something I post, then don't.

Thank you to all those who have shared their thoughts.

Nic

Well. Does seem a bit odd to be hearing this from a gynocologist. Psychiatrist, yes but gynocologist, a bit strange. Have you asked her to elaborate? Explain what she means by self-destructive? Believe she owes it to you to explain the statement, especially if you found it upsetting. Your right as a patient to understand what your doc is getting at.

Jim.

Nic,

I filed a complaint about an OBGYN after the birth of my first child. I was working 2 part-time jobs and had no health insurance. I could not pay the doctor bills, so I went on Medicaid.

My doctor was on vacation the day I was to be released from the hospital so another OBGYN was to sign me out. About 8 p.m. that evening she came in and lectured me about how I should get off my butt and get to work and get off the system. Then mumbled some people shouldn't be allowed to have kids.

When doctors cross the line and they should be called on it. What your doctor said is wrong. Just because she disagrees with your decision, does not give her the right to label you. Find another doctor.