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Old 20-08-2008, 12:01 PM
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Hello everyone,

I am new also, and hoping to find much needed support here. I have been diagnosed for 11 months now, and still am trying to comprehend it all. My PTSD is from an 18 year abusive marriage that is still in the divorce process. He is still abusing me through the legal system. I have so many triggers that it is nearly impossible for me to earn a living for me and my children, even though I have a college degree. How do other single parent sufferers handle earning a living.

Almost everyone around me just either laughs at my PTSD diagnosis, or tells me it's in my head, or just suck it up and get over it, or quit playing the victim. I cannot find any peers at all that understand my reactions to the triggers. I am hoping to find that connection here.
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Old 21-08-2008, 09:01 AM
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Welcome to the forum Soren :)
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Old 22-08-2008, 06:54 AM
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Welcome to the forum

I think you have made a great step to join us! This is the best place to find understanding and comfort. I'm still quite new to this, and I haven't posted so much, but I read a lot, and every day I find new topics about PTSD that I wasn't really aware of.

Maybe the most important thing is to realise that my friends will never understand this, and I've found confidence here to let these friendships fade out! I'm going trough this, and have to live with it every day (and night). I've decided to only keep those friends that accept this.

"Almost everyone around me just either laughs at my PTSD diagnosis, or tells me it's in my head" Yeah! It's in our heads, where else? It's a brain damage!

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Old 25-08-2008, 07:47 AM
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Dear Soren...

I hope you are hanging in there and are doing ok. You've been on my mind a lot the last days. I don't know where in the world you are, but I guess USA, and that's a looong way from Norway. So I just want you to know that there's a woman in Norway trying to send some long distant warm comforting hugs over the atlantic ocean! Hope they get through!

I reread my last post to you, and I think it seems like I feel that cutting off friends is as easy as changing your underware. It's not. I know. It's very hard, and very lonely, and hard to feel lonely when you're filled with terror and fear. But you need people around you that support you and validate your trauma, it's very important for you if you're going to heal! And I think that the people that tell you otherwise just feed that inner voice in you that tells you that you are the one to blame, that doesn't really accept the depth of what you have gone through.

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Welcome to the forum, Soren!

I'm glad you found us and I know that there are many on this site who can relate to what you have experienced. I hope you find the support and peace that you need.

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Soren, you have come to the right place for healing! We are glad you are with us.

Piri, I want to visit Norway someday, and maybe retire there. I live in the US now, but when my husband retires from work, we will have no health insurance, so Norway is looking pretty good right now. I have many illnesses and I will be too expensive to insure. Does Norway take political refugees from Bush's USA? (laugh)
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Hi Soren-----it's hard to have an illness that is invisible to others. I have found this as well, that my friends don't really see anything wrong with me. That's partially because I don't let them see or talk to me when I'm having a really bad day (I wouldn't be able to hold much of a conversation anyway, or drive anywhere to be with them). They only see me or talk to me when I'm doing fairly well. I have explained to them what my bad days are like, but since they don't see them they seem to totally forget what I've told them about my symptoms, and I suspect they think that I am faking it and wonder why I am off work when I seem (to them) just fine.

Like chronic pain, PTSD is invisible to others so they just don't understand what it feels like or its devastating effects on how well you can function.

Glad you've found this forum-----we are a community that will understand you here.

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Rivergirl - welcome. I also have PTSD out of abuse, and share the frustration of people saying ' but you seem fine' (like you when I'm not fine I don't really leave the house, so no one sees me, or I get home and to bed as soon as possible).
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Soren, I too am new to the forum and also have PTSD because of a long term abusive relationship. I was married for 22 years and have been divorced for one year. It has been difficult, therapy has helped a lot but knowing I'm free from the abuse really keeps me going. My friends have pretty much given up on me and it gets a little bit lonely. I have found much comfort here, reading the writings of people who know what it is like to have PTSD. I'm glad you found the forum and I hope it helps you.

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